Facing Codependence: What It Is, Where It Comes from, How It Sabotages Our Lives
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A brilliant new guide to understanding the origins of codependence and the path to recovery by a nationally recognized authority on dependency and addiction. In this fresh new look at codependence, Pia Mellody traces the origins of this illness back to childhood, describing a whole range of emotional, spiritual, intellectual, physical, and sexual abuses. Because of these earlier experiences, codependent adults often lack the skills necessary to lead mature lives and have satisfying relationships. Recovery from codependence comes from clearing up the toxic feelings left over from childhood and learning to reparent oneself by intervening on the adult symptoms of codependence. Central to Mellody’s concept is the idea of the “precious child” that needs healing within each adult. She creates a framework for identifying codependent behavior and describes an effective approach to recovery that includes both therapy and self-help processes. Designed to be used wi… More >>
Facing Codependence: What It Is, Where It Comes from, How It Sabotages Our Lives
All this book does is describe symtoms and bash parents. If you think you are codependent, there are many other excellent books on codependency which will help you with your problem.
I am from Mexico, I speak spanish and I like to have the book “facing codependence” in spanish. Could you help me? I like to get the cassettes also. Thank you. Maybe the book is in spanish, how can I get it here, I have been looking for it but I can not find it. Please, help me! Is urgent.
We all know that when we drop a stone in one part of a pond it creates ripple effects. Its the same thing with a person’s life from the very beginning, what happens to him or her in childhood creates a ripple effect or domino effect all the way to the present. People often say that they are who they are not just because of their inborn traits but also because of their experiences in life. If what you have experienced in childhood made you who you are, which in turn influenced your behavior in your adolescent and teen-age years, which again added new negative experiences for we know how brutal adolescent and teen-age years are, which again affected you and rippled effect to your 20’s….the vicious cycle doesn’t end. It is like what Chaos Theory is saying, “Sensitivity to initial reaction” it is observed everywhere: one domino, in a long line of dominos, fall..the rest fall too one by one; in a house of card you take off one from the bottom and a slight mistake will make the whole house of card fall; how you angled your shooting arm SLIGHTLY different from how you usually shoot a basketball affects the angle of the ball GREATLY by the time it gets close to the rim….this is because the effects can be INCREMENTAL, meaning for example as a person is growing up, the effects of childhood may not be noticable because its effects are incremental over the years, it COMPOUNDS in a way that you are not AT THE RIGHT LEVEL in your life…everybodys doing a Marathon and your not doing anything with your life at all, or your doing a one-hundred meter dash while everybody else is doing a Marathon, my point is your not doing it LEVEL by LEVEL as you grow up which in the long run compounds enough to begin to affect you adversely. If you were not doing anything in life at all later on you’ll feel sorry for it for everybody lived their life, their at 8 and you are still at 4, and if you tried to be so ahead all of your life you might one day regret it because you didn’t get to live life like how everybody else lived life, they went through 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10, you jumped from 1 to 10, MISSING OUT all in between! so childhood has a long effect on a person’s life, maybe you can incrementally break free of your childhood, see what happens.
Pia Mellody writes a wonderful book. She uses her own experiences and daily trials to help you realize that you may or may not be co-dependent. She helps you view everyday life from a different perspective that can help you grow. Very helpful once my counselor suggested that I may be co-dependent, I am, and I can learn a new life for myself.
No complaints, sorry it took me so long to respond, it slipped my mind about doing a review.